Hats off to you YSR

I am a greate fan of YSR ...... "కడప లో బాంబుల రెడ్డి మల్లి గెలిచాడు". తెలుగు దేశం ప్రబంజనం లో కాంగ్రెస్ హేమాహేమీలు కూడా ఓడిపోయినప్పుడు, prominent politicians like Tanguturi prakasam panthulu, sanjeeva Reddy, NT Rama rao లాంటి హేమ హేమీలు కూడ ఓటమి చవిచూసారు కాని, YSR తన 32 ఏళ్ళ రాజకీయ చరిత్ర లొ ఓటమి అన్నది ఎరుగడు.
అభిమానులు "పులివెందుల పులి" గా పిలుచుకునే ఆ వ్యక్తి గురుంచి మొదట్లో ఒక ఫ్యాక్షనిస్ట్ గా, గ్రూప్ రాజకీయాల నేత గా, ఆల్వేస్ అసమ్మతి నాయకుడి గా వున్న ఆయన, ఆ తర్వాత కాలంలో చాల మారిపోయాడు అని అంటారు. చంద్రబాబు హయాంలో ప్రతి పక్ష నేతగా వున్నప్పటికీ, బాబు తన హైటెక్ ట్రిక్స్ తో జనాలని తన వైపు తిప్పుకోవటం లో సఫలం అవ్వటంతో, అప్పుడప్పుడు జరిగే అసెంబ్లీ సమావేశాల టైం లోను, అడపాదడపా వచ్చే మిమిక్రీ షో టైం లోను తప్ప జనాలకి YSR గుర్తువుండటం తక్కువే.

పాదయాత్ర చెయ్యమని సలహా ఎవరు ఇచ్చారో కానీ అది నిజంగా YSR జీవితాన్ని మార్చేసింది. మొదట్లో ఆ సలహా ఇచ్చిన వ్యక్తి కి "What an Idea sir ji" అని YSR థాంక్స్ చెప్తారేమో అనుకున్నాను, కానీ ఆ థాంక్స్ మన రాష్ట్ర ప్రజలు చెప్పుకునేలా చేసాడు. పాదయాత్ర తో "మనకు ఇలాంటి నాయకుడు కావాలి" అనుకునేలా చేసిన ఆయన, ఆ తర్వాత తన పరిపాలనతో, పధకాలతో "మనకు ఇలాంటి నాయకుడు మాత్రమే కావాలి" అనుకునేలా చేసాడు.

NTR తర్వాత అంతటి ఇమేజ్ వున్న(సంఖ్యా పరంగా అంతకంటే ఎక్కువే) హీరోగా చిరంజీవి రాజకీయ ప్రవేశం, చంద్రబాబు హైటెక్ హామీలు, మహాకుటమి పేరుతో పరిమిత'కాల కూటమి' లాంటివి ఏమి కూడా YSR ని ఆపలేకపోయాయి. కాంగ్రెస్ కి పడిన ప్రతి ఓటు YSR ను చూసి వేసారు అని చెప్పటం లో ఏ మాత్రం సందేహం లేదు.

చిరంజీవి సభలకి వచ్చిన జనం YSR సభలకి రాలేదు, బుడ్డోడు(Jr.NTR) ప్రసంగాల కోసం ఎగబడిన జనం YSR ప్రసంగాల కోసం ఎదురు చూడలేదు, ఐనప్పటికీ, జనాలకి YSR మీద వున్న నమ్మకం మిగిలిన వాళ్ళ మీద లేదు. ఐనా ప్రచారం లో ఎవరి స్టైల్ వారికీ వుంటుంది.YSR ని తమకు ప్రధాన పోటీగా భావించిన చిరంజీవి పులివెందుల లో తొడ కొట్టాడు. NTR ఫ్యామిలీ కి ఆ ఫ్యామిలీ మెంబెర్స్ మాత్రమే పోటి అని భావించిన బాలకృష్ణ, కారంచేడు లో అక్క ఇంటి ముందు తొడ కొట్టాడు. అసలు వీళ్ళు ఎవరు తనకు పోటి కాదు అనుకున్న YSR మొగల్తూరు లో " Flying kisses " తో ప్రేమను పంచటానికి ట్రై చేసారు.

మొదట ముక్కోపి గా పేరు వున్నపటికి, తర్వాత తనలో ఆ కోపం నరం తెగిపోయింది అని చెప్పే అయన, తను చేసే కొన్ని పనులు చూస్తే, నిజమేనేమో అనిపిస్తుంది. మాకు 290 సీట్లు వస్తాయి అని అల్లు అరవింద్ చెప్పినప్పుడు, వంద రోజుల్లో YSR ని ఇడుపులపాయలో కుర్చోబెడతా అని చంద్రబాబు ప్రతిజ్ఞ చేసినప్పుడు, YSR ఒక్క చిన్న స్మైల్ ఇచ్చి లైట్ తీసుకున్నాడు. చంద్రబాబు ని దొంగబాబు అని పిలిచి కామెడీ చెయ్యటం ఆయనకే చెల్లింది. అసెంబ్లీ సమావేశాల్లో చంద్రబాబు ఎంతో ఆవేశంతో ఎన్నో ఆరోపణలు చేసినప్పుడు, ఒక నవ్వు నవ్వి, " ఊరుకోవయ్య చంద్రబాబు... నువ్వు కూడా మాకు చెప్తున్నావా" అని తన స్టైల్ లో చెప్పినప్పుడు చూస్తున్న వారు " TOM & JERRY " షో లా ఎంజాయ్ చేసారు.

ఒక వ్యక్తి మరణించాడు అని ఆ షాక్ తో లేదా భాధ తో 350 మంది పైగా మరణించటం నేను ఎప్పుడు వినలేదు, ఎక్కడా చదవలేదు. ఆంధ్ర లో ప్రతి ఇంట్లో కూడా, పార్టీలకు అతీతంగా, తమ సొంత వ్యక్తి ని కోల్పోయినట్లు భాదపడటం కూడా ఎప్పుడూ చూడలేదు. రాజకీయాలలో ఆరోపణలు సాదారణమే అయినప్పటికి, ఎంత నిజమో, ఎంత అబద్దమో తెలియని జనం మాత్రం కన్ఫుజ్ అవుతుంటారు... అదే విధంగా, YSR మీద కూడా ఎన్నో ఆరోపణలు వచ్చాయి.... అవి నిజమే అవ్వోచ్చేమో. కానీ ఒక మంచి నాయకుడిని, పేదల కష్టాలు తెలిసిన & తీర్చగలిగిన ఒక మంచి ముఖ్యమంత్రి ని మనం కోల్పోయాము అనేది మాత్రం నమ్మలేని, నమ్మటానికి ఇష్టపడని ఒక చేదు నిజం.
When Maoists attacked on Danthevada police camp, and many senior Congress leaders were unhappy about Chidambaram's policy, Digvijay Sing made comments like "Chidambaram should learn from late Andra pradesh CM YSR Reddy, who contained the Maoists in the state through a carrot-and-stick policy of dialogue and development.

May his soul rest in Peace.

The job after your job

Life is a 24-hour job. Even when your body and mind seems to switch off or rest, there is still an involuntary system that works at keeping you alive non-stop. If you are a person who thinks your profession is your only job, think again. A job is a responsibility towards a greater goal and is a promise to deliver expectations. Your profession is something that you do in exchange of money. And when your day ends, your job does not end there. You have merely switched roles into another one, another agreement that you made as a family man, a social man and a self-made man. Your work stress and pressures cannot be an excuse for you to ignore them like the involuntary system of your body they demand your attention.

Here are some areas you need to recognise as your job and ideas on how you can be successful in creating a better life:

Your job towards yourself: Your greatest responsibility is towards yourself. You are the mind and the body that drives the aspiration you have for yourself and for the rest of the world. It is, therefore, your duty to constantly invest in your sanity, happiness and growth. Take time out to study, to relax and do things for yourself. The logic is simple—if you are not consciously planning and taking out time for your growth, you are deteriorating. I have personally witnessed a friend's success; the higher he rose on the corporate ladder, the more impatient, unhealthy, unreasonable and angry he had become. You are the heart of the entire system that you have built around yourself. When the heart turns weak or fails, the body dies.

Your job towards your family: Family is where most people would get the pink slip and yet where most people don't get fired. As a family person there are certain expectations and deliverables that you are liable for. It's unsaid, but it's implied. Providing an income is one of them and spending time in love and care is another. No matter what goes on in your world at work, you cannot ignore the needs of the family. To neglect the needs of old parents who brought you to this world and to neglect giving attention to the young children you brought into this world, is creating guilt and frustration that will find its way out at your job at work. Failing at the family job is like starving your body of nourishment. A sick body like an emotionally sick employee becomes a liability for others.

Your job towards your social environment: Without entertainment and friends to share your joy with, stress becomes the highlight of your life. Man is a social animal. We are not ants; we are magical and creative beings that thrive on sharing, on nurturing, on ideating and seeking pleasure and fun as a way of life. When people get so busy that they have no time to socialise creatively, they break down more often. If you are one of those who merely are interested in pursuing professional success while putting a 'do not disturb' sign on other areas of your responsibility, success will always evade you.

True success and true joy of living is in fulfilling all your responsibilities in all the jobs that you have consciously taken up and all the jobs that you are involuntarily a part of. What kind of success would you have when you have deteriorated in your attitude, don't get along with your family and have no friends to rejoice with? Don't make your professional job so important that you lose your position in others. Success lies in fulfillment and balance and it's easy when you live your day in awareness of your responsibility, not only towards your career, but also towards yourself, family and friends.

Your job towards yourself

Your greatest responsibility is towards yourself. You are the mind and the body that drives the aspiration you have for yourself and for the rest of the world. It is, therefore, your duty to constantly invest in your sanity, happiness and growth. Take time out to study, to relax and do things for yourself. The logic is simple—if you are not consciously planning and taking out time for your growth, you are deteriorating. I have the personal witness, in the first year of my job never concentrated on personal development,I am also like a typical college passed out pupil who enjoys new job environment with pocket full of money, weekends delicious food (hyderabadi biryani,... and no more drinks ) year end parties and all the facilities provided by a software company.As the days go on I got a feeling of changing the life style different from the style I accustomed.Now I am on the way of improving my self day by day. earlier I used to personally witnessed a friend's success; the higher he rose on the corporate ladder, the more impatient, unhealthy, unreasonable and angry he had become. You are the heart of the entire system that you have built around yourself. When the heart turns weak or fails, the body dies.

True success and true joy of living is in fulfilling all your responsibilities in all the jobs that you have consciously taken up and all the jobs that you are involuntarily a part of. What kind of success would you have when you have deteriorated in your attitude, don't get along with your family and have no friends to rejoice with? Don't make your professional job so important that you lose your position in others. Success lies in fulfillment and balance and it's easy when you live your day in awareness of your responsibility, not only towards your career, but also towards yourself, family and friends.

How to Improve Emotional quoten

Emotions and youMr Ram,working as a vice president in a multinational organization,noticed that while he was parked at a traffic signal,an adjoining car scraped past his rear view mirror.He immediately lost his temper,stepped out of his car and menacingly gestured towards the driver of the other car hurling verbal invectives.The driver of the other car calmly replied that this incident be viewed as a harmless accident.When the aggression did not abate the driver replied that he could match the verbal abuse and physical if needed but chose not to.This emotional outburst,he said,would not do both any good.The fracas ended peacefully
What are we talking about
This incident brought to the fore two contrasting emotional styles something that we see too often in stressful urban life.Mr Ram was clearly a person with a very high level of cognitive ability and perhaps functioning at a high level of intellectual efficiency,but definitely a very low level of ability to manage emotions.
It is interesting to note that the success of a child is measured and is dependent on how well he does in school academically or how many medals or prizes he wins.As one begins to work,he becomes aware that to be successful and to climb up the corporate ladder,intelligence alone is not sufficient.The manner in which he conducts himself and handles others is as important
Salovey and Mayer first coined the term 'emotional quotient' or EQ in 1990 and this concept was further developed by Daniel Goleman. EQ principles provide a new way to understand and assess people's behavior,attitudes,interpersonal behavior and potential.
The essential premise of EQ is that to be successful one requires effective awareness,control and management of one's own emotions and those of other people.It embraces two aspects of intelligence - understanding yourself,your goals,intentions,responses and behavior,and understanding others,their feelings and ability to manage and influence others.
Being aware of one's self refers to knowing one's emotions and recognizing how emotions affect performance and knowing one's own personal strengths and limits.
Self management refers to managing impulses as well as distressing feelings,displaying trustworthiness and demonstrating responsibility in fulfilling obligations.
Social awareness is sensing others feelings and perspectives,anticipating,responding and meeting others' needs,sensing others' developmental needs and bolstering their ability.
Relationship management is influencing others through persuasion,negotiating and resolving conflicts,inspiring and guiding and being a catalyst in initiating,promoting or managing change.
The good news is that unlike cognitive ability or the intelligence quotient,emotional intelligence is something that can be learnt and improved provided the person recognizes that he needs to bring about change.

Some tips to improve emotional intelligence :

Understand your emotions

Be aware of thoughts that underlie your emotions

Be aware of your goals

Be open to feedback and learn from experience

Make sound decisions with confidence

Stay calm and positive in emotional situations

Think clearly and stay focused under pressure

Build trusting relationships

Be planned and organized at work

Listen to others and show sensitivity to their concerns

Avoid advising and help out people based on their needs

Learn the skill of influencing and winning people

Foster an open communication and learn to communicate tough news effectively

Handle difficult people and tense situations with tact

Leadership Is All About Emotional Persuasion

A leader would better understand both your own emotions and those of the people you lead.

The communicating a leader does is all, essentially, persuasion. That's what leaders do. They persuade people to work together, to achieve more than they ever thought they could, to reach for apparently impossible goals, to put personal interests aside (at least temporarily) in favor of some larger group purpose.

Persuasion means changing someone's mind. If the mind isn't changed, the person hasn't been persuaded. It's that simple. So a leader's job is to change minds, to push followers to make new decisions.

Here's the surprising thing: Decision-making is fundamentally emotional. Recent brain research shows that if you incapacitate the part of the brain concerned with emotions, through a stroke or other brain trauma, people can't make decisions. That's because, far from clouding our ability to decide, emotions make it possible. It works this way: We tag our experiences and memories with emotions in order to be able to retrieve them at crucial moments later on. For example, if we burn our hand on a hot stove, we tag our memory of the incident with an emotion. That emotion makes the memory easy to retrieve at a later date, and we never forget not to touch the next hot stove. No emotion, no retrieval. No retrieval, no decision.

Because persuasion lies squarely at the center of leadership, of changing minds and making decisions, an emotional process is central to what successful leaders do. More than that, it's a process that requires both intellectual finesse and nonverbal skill. A successful leader, in other words, has to be comfortable with emotional arguments and comfortable in his or her own skin making and responding to those arguments. Self-awareness is critical; understanding your own emotional tendencies and responses is essential if you're going to evoke and shape emotional responses in others.

In the end decision-making is nine-tenths emotion and one-tenth intellectual justification. Most reasoning about decision-making is ex post facto justification of decisions already made on emotional grounds. We decide to go for a stretch second-quarter goal, for example, because we want it, or it feels right, or some other equally intangible reason. Then we collect intellectual reasons for the decision that we've already made, in order to justify it to ourselves.

Let's go one step further. Most of us have a commonsense understanding of how our minds work that goes something like this: My conscious mind is in charge. I get thoughts, like, I want to walk over there and talk to that person, and then I direct my body to act on those thoughts. It's as if there were a little director sitting in my head calling out orders and running the show.

Again, recent brain research turns that commonsense idea on its head. Most of our brain power is unconscious. The ratio of neurons that govern unconscious thought to conscious thought is roughly 10 million to one. We are primarily unconscious beings on automatic pilot. Indeed, it has to be that way. That unconscious brain keeps us alive. If we had to think consciously about everything from keeping our heart pumping to breathing to avoiding large predatory mammals, we'd be dead in no time.

That's how we evolved, but now that we're in a modern world, some of those unconscious thought processes trip us up. For example, as soon as we see a large group of people--in fact, long before we're consciously aware of them--our unconscious brain goes to work getting us ready for fight or flight. And because we've got neurons in our head that pick up on the emotions of everyone around us, once one person in a group goes into fight or flight, the whole group soon does.

Back to leadership communication. If you as a leader stand in front of an audience of your employees trying to persuade them to go for that stretch second-quarter goal, before you even open your mouth everyone in the audience has begun to panic, at least a little, because of the fight or flight signals you send out without being consciously aware of them.

Suddenly the job of persuasion is harder than you might have expected. How do you persuade a room full of stressed-out people to work harder or change radically or give up vacations and weekends to save the company? You do it by taking that audience on an emotional decision-making journey, beginning with an authentic acknowledgment of where they are right now.

But before you address that audience, you need to do some homework as a leader to gain conscious control of your own unconscious body language, so that you can send out messages of openness and connection rather than danger and distance. If you don't start with that, your leadership journey will be over before it has begun.

Leadership is persuasion. Persuasion is emotional. Emotion is unconscious. Leaders need to master their unconscious emotional thought processes in order to succeed. It's essential work for anyone who wants to persuade others to achieve anything worthwhile.